Support and Haters

Hola! Let's talk about having a support system, because I think like trying to quit drinking stopping bad food and exercise habits is just as hard if not harder. If you're an alcoholic you can not go to bars, not go down the beer aisle in a grocery store, it is completely possible to avoid drinking in your life until you get to a place where you can be around it and not want it. With food we HAVE to eat, you can avoid restaurants but you still have to go to the grocery store, you still have to cook dinner, you can't just put all food in a box and never see it again. This is why it is important to have people who support you, to talk you down from eating an entire big family bag of potato chips.
I don't do group exercise, an occasional kick boxing class cause I think it's cool, but no aerobics or anything like that. I'll go running with a friend, but for the most part I exercise alone. I have no problems with that, I've never really been shy nor cared about what people thought about how I looked, my attitude has been and always will be if you don't like how I look you are more than welcome to look in the other direction. For most people they don't like to workout alone, so get a buddy or do join that class, you WILL make friends with same goals you have and they will help you through the tough times. I still need support, I'm lucky most of my friends embrace and love the changes I have made. If I'm having a bad workout day I talk about it on my Facebook and my friends get me through it. The opposite is true also, I use my Facebook to post my milestones and most of my friends support it. Not everyone in your life is going to support your weight loss however and you need to be prepared for that.
It was a major shock to me when one of my friends was down right mean to me about my weight loss. She said something about always being thin and never having to work out, to which i replied "lucky you" and smiled. The truth of the matter is that lots of people don't handle change well. When you lose the kind of weight I have (and am still losing) it is a major change. I'm no longer the funny fat girl when we go to the bars who doesn't really get hit on, now I'm just like my friends, very normal sized, and men notice me. Is it because now I represent more competition? I don't know maybe, but I think more likely people just become used to the status quo and don't like it disrupted. You have to just get rid of the negativity. If they are people that aren't vital to your life boot 'em out, delete them from your Facebook and smile when you see them at the mall rockin' your size smaller jeans. If they are friends you love and don't want to delete from your life, avoid talking about your progress with them, just go on like everything is normal, because hearing the negativity will eventually bring you down and you do not want that when doing something like conquering a weight problem. Keep the ones that support you super close. I am lucky, my best friend in the entire world is my number one supporter (and I am hers, she's gone from a size 22 to a 12 in like the last two years) and last night when I was having a rough night she texted me and told me I was beautiful. Surround yourself with people like my best friend, because with people who love us for who we truly are and support us no matter what we can take whatever the world throws at us.